Cheating

Let's just say I have only caught someone cheating once.  Go over to Bossy Girl for the details. Now I have dated people who I was 99.9% sure they weren't faithful but it wasn't in my face.  So we remained on a don't ask don' tell policy.  At the end of the day I don't think I gave a damn.*shrug*

My uncle often told me ALL men cheat but when yours cheat you have to decide if he is worth keeping.  He believes if a woman's only issue is her man cheating every once in a while AND he is handling all his business at home she needs to get over it.  She could possibly leave her man get another one that WILL cheat, not work, not pay bills, or do stuff around the house.  I hate to admit it but I kinda agree.  I'm not saying it is okay to cheat but I don't think cheating is a reason to end a relationship.

If the cheating was only sex I would like to think I would eventually be able to move past it.  Now if he was in love and carrying on a relationship I sure I would dismiss him.  I don't want to think about him creating a child or bringing home a STD.  Those are immediate deal breakers.

I am going to piss some women off with what I am about to say but oh well. I would ask myself why did he cheat was there anything I was or was not doing to push him away. Too many times I hear women say they aren't sleeping with their men.  Sometimes women will completely let themselves go and think it is okay because the had a kid or two. They treat the men like their son instead of their man.  I can go on and on. Don't get me wrong SOME not all men are straight hoes but there are a few who genuinely make a mistake.

What are your thoughts on cheating?  Can you forgive your mate for cheating?

Single Until Married

When I tell people "I am single until married" they are often confused.  Especially when I tell this to my significant other.  So I thought I would take the time to break down what this means TO ME!

Single until married means stay in your lane. Perform the duties that go along with your title. If you are not sure of the duties you should perform keep reading.

DATING
When dating you are SINGLE and you should be your only priority.  Therefore you really shouldn't (well I don't) do anything unless you want to. No need to compromise. If he can't get with you or you can't get with him tell him "we're incompatible." No need to waste your time.  I was once told "dating in like  American Idol let the best man win" That is the now my motto.

IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP
This is really tricky for most people. However this is the area were the boundaries need to be set. If not you will find yourself performing wife duties and your just a girlfriend.  When I am in a relationship I am still SINGLE (there is no box for go together) but I have made a conscious decision to be monogamous. This does not mean I am washing your clothes, cooking you dinner, cleaning your house, picking up your dry cleaning, helping you pay bills, etc.  At the same time I am not asking a man to cut my grass, move furniture, etc. I have family and male friends for that. 

Women tend to take the title has girlfriend and go over board.  I learned the hard way not to do that.  If you are doing ALL that and not his wife why should he marry you.  I will tell a man I'm in a relationship with "oh I don't do any of that. If that is what you want WE ARE INCOMPATIBLE." Don't get me wrong I will let him know I can cook, clean, etc. I may help with run an errand but it is when it is convenient for me and not because it's my job.  I am doing it because he is the BOMB and I want to surprise my baby! I've found that he appreciates it a lot more when I do on my time and not his.

When in a committed relationship I am faithful but not a dummy.  At the end of the day my options are always open. Meaning I keep male friends and will make new male friends. I do not believe in closing myself off just because we go together. #chileplease

At this point in my life if a man wants me acting like his wife he needs to put a ring on it!

What are your duties in the above roles? Do you agree or disagree?

We Can't Be Friends

Well the past year I have been doing an overhaul of my friendships.  While thinking on my friendships I began to feel like it is extremely hard to be friends with exes and men. 

I have several male friends but lately I have the feeling that a couple of them want more.  They are starting to make comments and I am wondering what their intentions are.  I've decided to distance myself from them but I have a feeling that I may have to end a couple of those friendships.

I've decided to cut all ties with my exes.  I've deleted their numbers and asked that they not contact me anymore (especially that married one).  Although I have no desire to date/sleep with them I have to admit I am guilty because I use them as time wasters.  I will talk to them, hang out, etc just to pass time.  All the while they are hoping for a chance.  They know they don't have a chance but they are hoping to catch me in a weak moment and I tend to take advantage of that.

I think it is very sad when men and women can't be friends rather it is your ex/a childhood friend etc.  I have heard men say "the only females friends they have are the ones they want to sleep with." Meaning if they get a chance they are taking it. SMH I guess I can't knock the hustle! LOL

Update from a previous blog Friendship.  One of  the ladies I put in the dead category has been revived. LOL The same day I posted the blog something told me to call her. When I called her we spoke about somethings that were going on and we both apologized.  We decided to make sure we speak about any issue and not let obstacles or other people come in between us.  I will say she is in a much better place. MORAL OF THE STORY: maybe you need to take a break, breathe and regroup to see if a friendship is worth saving!!

How do you handle male/female friendships? Exes? Any other friendship overhauls?  Have you ever revived a dead friendship?!

Workout Wednesday

I believe I worked out 3 days last week which is better than nothing. My water intake sucked and my diet was borderline.

Today my HCG came in the mail and I am super excited.  I have tons of people inquiring about HCG (Human Chorionic Gonadotropin). This is a hormone that our body produces and when taken in small doses it should burn abnormal fat. I am hoping it decreases my abdominal area ONLY. I don't want to lose my butt, hips, and breast.

Guidelines:
**10-20 drops 3 times per day. Hold under you tongue 15 seconds before swallowing
First two days eat a high calorie diet while taking the drops.
Starting day 3 you will be on a 500 calorie diet
Drink 100 oz of water per day (pray for  me)
Decide which plan you want to be on 15 day, 26 day or 40 day plan.  Just remember to stop taking the drops 3 days prior to the end of your plan
Light to no exercise

I will be posting my process weekly!!

View the results of one my tweeps Attorney2B to order this product contact @DymeataB on Twitter

My Weekend

My weekend was okay.

Friday night I was so sleepy and I fell asleep on the couch rather early.

On Saturday I went to an event that Black Tie ATL held celebrating being in business two years. Let's just say the food was AWESOME  and the owner is very gracious.  While at the event I ran into an old friend and we chatted it up.  I also ran into two of my tweeps Singleinatlanta and Arball. It was nice to put a face with a tweet.  @singleinatlanta is really nice and seems like so much.  In fact she is holding an event for singles this weekend (I will post later).  I also met a potential boo at the event (Inquisitive Boo).

Well Inquisitive Boo suggested we attend a day party at Luckie Lounge. I am not a fan of Luckie Lounge because the crowd is not my cup of tea.  However I went because I was not ready to go home and it was an #EPICFAIL. There were tons of old people, fat people, light skin men and I am not going to start on the attire. SMDH  The service was horrible and from what I was told the bathroom looked like a locker room.  Needless to say I will not be going back to Luckie Lounge for anything.

When I returned home my married ex called and decided to finally fix my rear brakes.  He also mentioned his wife was out of the country for a month and he would love to take me out. WTF!! I don't get it. Sigh...He is very adamant about us spending time together. I keep telling him I don't married men. He of course says "we are just friend." .I think I am going to ask him for a couple of grand. Asking a man for money is a sure fire way to get him to stop calling.  My "friendship" with him has me wondering if people can be friends with their ex (blog coming).

Once my married ex left I met Inquisitive Boo for drinks.  He is a cutie but looks wise he is not my type.  I prefer tall, dark and handsome.  He is short, light skin with good hair.  However I had a decent time but he asks tons of questions (probably because he is a writer).  I am not use to men that like to communicate and that ask so many questions.  We made plans to go out this week so I will keep you posted.

How was your weekend?!

Workout Wednesday

WORKOUTMonday I did Jillian Michaels "30 Day Shred" AND I did 40 minutes at the gym,

Tuesday I only did the DVD

Wednesday I only went to the gym and did 40 mins of cardio

Thursday I did nothing

Friday I did both..

I was so pleased in this area!

DIET
I didn't keep a food diary but I noticed I did really good with the food during the day but I snacked at night.  Then my cycle started so that is when I realized why I did so much snacking last week.

WATER
Let's not talk about it...LOL I MUST TO BETTER

Oh I decided to do the HCG diet...I've read enough about it and seen enough results so I feel comfortable trying it out. My sister from another mother @DymeataB on twitter sells it so I purchased my bottle. Can't wait to share the results.

After I complete the HCG diet I will start my Shakeology shakes via Yum Yucky They are a little pricey but I think they will help me keep the weight off.

How was your workout last week?!

Ladies Would You Propose to a Man?

After watching Love N Hip Hop on VH-1 my twitter TL was full of comments regarding Chrissy's decision to propose to Jim Jones. 

I would never ask to marry a man not matter how I feel.  That is out of order and it starts emasculation process. Don't get me wrong I admire any woman that can put themselves out there like that but for me HELL NO!!! Somethings just ain't right.  He has not asked for a reason and those reason may or may be you...i.e his career, finances, etc. Most men want to make sure they can PROVIDE for their family before they make that leap. Well that and they are done whoring around...whatever the reason fall back and let him propose. 

Before I get some strange comments, I am not saying wait for him to come around.  Every woman should have a time table and goal when it pertains to her relationship.  When you have reached yours speak on it and decide if you want to continue being the GF.  If not #moveon

Ladies would you propose? Fellas how do you feel about a woman proposing to you?