My Weekend

My weekend was okay.

Friday night I was so sleepy and I fell asleep on the couch rather early.

On Saturday I went to an event that Black Tie ATL held celebrating being in business two years. Let's just say the food was AWESOME  and the owner is very gracious.  While at the event I ran into an old friend and we chatted it up.  I also ran into two of my tweeps Singleinatlanta and Arball. It was nice to put a face with a tweet.  @singleinatlanta is really nice and seems like so much.  In fact she is holding an event for singles this weekend (I will post later).  I also met a potential boo at the event (Inquisitive Boo).

Well Inquisitive Boo suggested we attend a day party at Luckie Lounge. I am not a fan of Luckie Lounge because the crowd is not my cup of tea.  However I went because I was not ready to go home and it was an #EPICFAIL. There were tons of old people, fat people, light skin men and I am not going to start on the attire. SMDH  The service was horrible and from what I was told the bathroom looked like a locker room.  Needless to say I will not be going back to Luckie Lounge for anything.

When I returned home my married ex called and decided to finally fix my rear brakes.  He also mentioned his wife was out of the country for a month and he would love to take me out. WTF!! I don't get it. Sigh...He is very adamant about us spending time together. I keep telling him I don't married men. He of course says "we are just friend." .I think I am going to ask him for a couple of grand. Asking a man for money is a sure fire way to get him to stop calling.  My "friendship" with him has me wondering if people can be friends with their ex (blog coming).

Once my married ex left I met Inquisitive Boo for drinks.  He is a cutie but looks wise he is not my type.  I prefer tall, dark and handsome.  He is short, light skin with good hair.  However I had a decent time but he asks tons of questions (probably because he is a writer).  I am not use to men that like to communicate and that ask so many questions.  We made plans to go out this week so I will keep you posted.

How was your weekend?!

My Approach to Dating

Being a thirty one, single, black female in Atlanta is really hard.  Especially since this is the first time I have been single in eight or nine years.  With that being said I had to create my dating philosophy.

My philosophy for dating is:

Have fun. Don't take dating to seriously.  Enjoy the moment (i.e. date).  I've decided to stay away from heavy conversation on the first date.  No interrogating the man.  Now if he offers some details I may inquire but probably not.  The reason I will not get to heavy on the first date is because I may never see this man again. So I don't see the point in getting all in his business. That is a waste of my memory cells.

Don't sweat the small stuff. If he doesn't call or text when he said he will DON'T TRIP. He doesn't owe me a damn thing we are not in a relationship.  As long as he is respectful then I am going to roll with it. Now if he is chronically late and never calls than that is another issue. Besides I'm known for not calling or returning text messages.

Take things slowly. No need to rush, to be honest I think it takes at the minimum six months before the representative starts to fade (fade not leave it can take up to 2 yrs for the rep to leave).  So I am not trying to become exclusive with anyone before six months. I am retaining the right to be single and mingle....

Keep your options open.  I am still learning this but it is the only way to be.  I date other people not matter who I like the most.Until I am in a monogamous relationship I AM SINGLE so I act accordingly

Don't be too available.

Be safe.  For me I only have sex with one person at a time but some people don't. Don't matter who or how many people you sleep with WRAP IT UP!!!!

Be honest about everything.



***I reserve the right to add to this list as I see fit


What is your dating philosophy?

Three Dates..One Day

Well this past Saturday I was pretty busy.  I had three dates and each were impromptu.  Saturday I was headed to Atlantic Station alone when a friend  (TD Boo) call and said he would join me. TD Boo and I have been friends for years and there is an attraction. There are a couple of reason I don't want to advance our relationship.  He is not looking for a relationship, we are friends, and we had sex years ago and I don't really remember much about it.  I feel like since my memory is foggy when it comes to our relations it must not have been that great.  Since we are now friends I don't want to mess that up.  I can't lie we have chemistry, we flirt and we can talk about anything but I'm not willing to risk our friendship or waste my time.

Date # 2 was with a really short man (Short Boo) and he is not that cute but the conversation is great.  We decided to have drinks b/c I wasn't hungry.  We drank and talked for a couple of hours. Very easy conversation. The dated ended with a goodbye and a quick hug.  A couple of hours later I received a text that said "you know I enjoyed your company! You are extremely social person with a great personality."  I took that to mean I talk too much! LMBO ( I will blog about this fool in a later post)

Date #3 was with the dickmatizor (a man who can lay the pipe).  Well I wouldn't call it a date I would just call it a hook up.  Now the dickmatizor and I have been seeing each other for about 6 months.  He is a really nice guy but we are incompatible in so many areas. Dickmatizor is also VERY busy with work so it is a bad fit other than the sex. I am currently weaning myself off him. #prayforme

Needless to say I was busy Saturday....

How was your weekend?

My First Tweet and Meet

So last Thursday I had my first Tweet and Meet with a male tweep (who I will call Twitter Boo). Being as though I am deathly afraid of internet stalkers and killers I was shocked at myself for agreeing to meet Twitter Boo.  However I am learning to relinquish all of the boundaries I have created. 

Umm my first impression of Twitter Boo is that he was tall, dark and and a cutie.  He looked liked his picture which is a good thing b/c most people use old pictures. I met Twitter Boo at his job and he decided we were having Mexican food.  The fact that HE decided where we were going was a plus and who doesn't like Mexican.

To me the conversation seemed pretty easy and I don't recall any moments were there was an awkward silence. I didn't really feel like I was meeting a stranger (I guess because we tweet ) nor did I feel the pressure of a date.  After we ate and had a couple of margaritas the tweet and meet was over.

Not sure what I thought of Twitter Boo.  I didn't leave with the feeling I had to see him again nor did I feel like I didn't want to see him again.  I'm sure if he asked I was go out with him again. *shrug*

I'm just proud that I stepped out of the box!

My Dating Life or Lack Thereof

Let's just say I am a serial monogamist. I despise all this casual dating and game playing.  It seems like such a waste of time (I can buy my own dinner, movie, etc). However I am now single for the first time in about 10 years (several LONG term relationships) and dating is a must *roll eyes* and *sucks teeth.*  Making a conscious decision not to enter a relationship this past year has been very rewarding.  I admit I have gotten use to not being bothered with a person, not having to think about a persons feeling, not checking in, not having pity sex, etc.

I believe I am single due to my daddy (the bar is really high due to him), I'm extremely guarded, and some of the guys I've dated.  Now when it comes to dating/being in a relationship I consider my self an equal opportunist to some degree. I'm not stuck on titles, careers (although you need to do something), etc. Don't get me wrong I do have requirements but I am open to dating a blue collar man.  I just remember what my mother told me about my dad...he had millionaire potential when they married. She made the right decision by looking past where he was because where he IS...is on TOP! Can you tell I love my daddy?!

Basiclly I've dated dope boys (who happened to be my best BFs), entreprenuers (2nd best), a PSYCHO millionaire, and an old average corporate dude (who was ugly).  Each of them had their faults but I can honestly say I have never been dogged by any of them. They all spoiled me in their own special way. One of them would bathe me in the shower, then lotion me up after and serve in bed (he cheated but hey I can't be mad).

This bring me to today....I've been single for one year and booless for a short time. Now I'm on the prowl but I have no clue on how to start dating. I have so many rules and regulations until I AM IN MY OWN WAY. I don't want to be hooked up by friends (I'm private), I REFUSE to date online (seems so desperate), I don't like light skin men (which goes for white men), etc. I am sure you get the hint. Some of my tweeps have been giving me great ideas but I have yet to put them in motion.

So with all that do you all have any ideas for me to start this dating thing?! As you see I need some major help!